Do you wish you had more confidence? Do you think that your life would be better if you could feel more confident at work or in social situations? Do you wish you could get confidence tips from someone who understands how you feel, and has been there?
Well, the good news is; Confidence can be learned. And here are some great confidence tips from a shy girl to get you started.
I know what it’s like to have low self-esteem, I’ve been there. That knot in your stomach when you are in a social situation, getting the mind blank when it comes having a conversation, just wanting to curl up in a corner and become invisible. It can be miserable, and it hinders you from getting on with things you want to achieve, because you don’t feel good enough.
The thing I have discovered about confidence is – it can be learned! Yes, it’s true – you can learn to be more confident.
It does mean you have to step out of your comfort zone, but the rewards will impact every area of your life and ultimately make you feel so much better about yourself and your abilities.
So broken down into simplest form the confidence tips look like this:
Think About Your Body Language
Whilst I don’t want you to get hung up on this, body language is the first form of communication. So remember to smile, hold up your head and shoulders back.
The funny thing is; the physical act of doing this will instantly make you feel more confident. It’s something you can practice doing at home until it feels more natural to you.
Take on an Alter Ego
Is there someone that you admire and respect? Someone that you think would like to be more like?
If so, imagine that you are embodying that person – think how they speak and act and confidently go through life with ease. Better still imagine that person is you, and you are the confident person you always wanted to be….. what would that be like? You can always spend a few minutes a day visualising how it would feel to be that person (you in the future).
Be Armed with Questions
In a social situation it can feel daunting knowing what to say to people. Well here’s the thing; people love to talk about themselves, so ask them questions. It takes the pressure off of you and puts you in control of the situation.
I have listed some great conversation questions below – feel free to copy and paste them to your phone so you have them for future reference.
Last but not Least Practice
Start small, start practicing these skills whenever you go out. Embody that alter ego, smile and stand tall, and how about initiating a chat in the checkout queue.
Before you know it you are going to be feeling so much more confident, and you know, once you conquer that fear – you can do anything!
Questions – Copy and paste these to your phone so you have them for future reference!
Great Conversation Starters:
You can always open with easy questions, they are a little bit standard, but be sure to dig a little deeper.
- Where are you from?
- Oh, do you like it there?
- What do you love about it?
- If you could live anywhere in the world, would you stay there?
- Where would you live?
- What do you do for a living?
- Oh I don’t know what that is – can you tell me what it involves?
- Do you like your job?
- What would you do if you could do anything?
These openers work great for beginning a conversation and now we are engaged we can ask more interesting questions to continue the conversation
- Tell me about yourself.
- What’s your story?
- What are you passionate about?
- Working on anything exciting lately?
- What was the highlight of your week?
Continue the Conversation:
If you feel a little awkward asking personal questions right out of the gate, use your environment and surroundings to create conversation. Comment on the food and drinks. Ask about the venue or location. You can also ask general interest questions, like their favourite sports team or YouTube video.
- Have you been to an event like this before?
- How do you know the host?
- What are you doing this weekend…what’s your favourite thing to do on the weekends?
- What are your favourite restaurants around here?
- Keeping up with __sport__ recently?
- Can you recommend any menu dishes here?
- What a beautiful/cool/ugly/bizarre venue. Have you been here before?
- Did you see that viral ____ YouTube video? It was all over my social media today.
As the majority of our new conversations hover on surface-level topics, it’s refreshing to talk about more meaningful areas of our lives. These may be a bit forward as your first questions, but if the conversation is progressing well, try one or two of these out.
- What’s your biggest fear?
- If you had to pick any character in a book, movie or TV show who is most similar to you, who would you choose? Why?
- What’s your biggest regret?
- When you were growing up what was your dream job? Is any part of that still true?
I hope that you found these confidence tips useful. For more great tips to living a happier life, check out: